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Fantasy vs. Reality
I have fantasies all the time. Every morning, noon and night.
Get your minds up here, with me, please. I fantasize about all I'm going to do in a day. My fantasy day would look something like this:
5:00-6:30 Up, jog, shower, dress, bed made, get girls up
6:30-7:00 Breakfast and girls off to school
7:00-7:30 Blog - I've got to get this done early since I have millions of followers, generating passive income so that my days are full of taking care of my children and not worrying about trying to fit in for-pay writing or my part-time job....
7:30-8:10 Get BubbaB8 up and fed and off to school
8:10-8:45 Get NuggetizerB5 up and fed and off to school
9:00-9:30 Clean up breakfast and kitchen, including floor.
9:30-11:20 Clean entire house. No need to organize it, because it's already perfect. (ha ha)
11:30 Pick up NuggetizerB5
11:40-12:00 Healthy lunch with NuggetizerB5, we discuss his school activities
12:00-3:00 Educational activities and outdoor play with NuggetizerB5. I squeeze in a load or two of laundry...no need for more than that, since I'm always caught up on laundry. We also bake cookies, which are fresh and coming out of the oven at 3:00 when....
3:00 Girls arrive home for yummy homemade cookies (which are, of course, gluten and sugar free and fabulous!) We discuss their day together and laugh heartily at some funny occurrence.
3:30 Girls begin homework, with joy and pleasure over more learning!
3:40 BubbaB8 arrives home and we enjoy cookies and discuss his activities with similar joy I shared with his sisters.
4:00 BubbaB8 does his homework, thrilled to complete it in its entirety and safely tuck it away in his school bag, ready for the next day.
4:30 We all head outside to play basketball, ride bikes, and frolic in the yard together. The kids support one another and cheer for each one in turn, hoping for the best outcome for each individual, knowing that every person's joy is the family's complete joy.
5:00 I start dinner while the children continue to play. A beautiful meal is soon on the table, which is set to perfection because every day is a special occasion!
5:30 My darling love is here by now, and if it is a day for his children to come over, they are here as well. We all sit down to a lovely dinner, happy, content, enjoying the food and the hard work that went into working for the groceries, into shopping for, planning for, and storing the ingredients for the meal, and the work that went into preparing it.
6:30 It's a long dinner because we just can't stop talking and laughing and enjoying one another. All of the children jump up, arguing over who will do the dishes, and they quickly settle it and all join together, knowing that many hands make light work. My darling love and I take a few minutes for an evening walk together, knowing if we make little moments, our love will be healthier for it.
7:00 Depending on the weather, we join together to play a game outside or a board game inside. On a rare occasion a special tv show will be watched together. In this fantasy, the tv is rarely on.
8:00 The day begins to wind down, each child bathing and preparing for bed in his or her turn, according to age. They each settle sweetly into their beds, eyes fluttering to a close as I softly shut the door to their (perfectly clean) bedroom.
Are you laughing yet? Sick to the stomach? What?
P.S. If the above is already your life,
Here is my reality...and just in case you wondered, I wrote down my reality
6:45 Overslept!!!!!!! Jump (ok, stumble) out of bed and down the stairs...thankfully the girls are much more responsible than I am and are up, ready, and waiting for the bus.
7:00 I'm just going to lay back down for a minute....
7:45 Are you kidding me????? Fell back to sleep...fly into the boys room....BubbaB8 gets up quickly, thank goodness....make some breakfast for him and get him on the bus....
8:15-8:45 Frantically work on blog while telling NuggetizerB5 to get dressed, intermittently getting his clothes out and helping with breakfast.
8:50 Click "publish" and take Nuggetizer to school.
9:00-10:30 Go to track and jog; leave track and go to grocery store
10:30 -11:00 Put away groceries, talk to sis, clean up dishes from breakfast, have coffee
11-11:15 Try to clean living room upholstery with Magic Eraser; don't ask; this twill furniture is the bane of my existence!
11:15-12:15 Shower, dress, lotion, make-up
12:15-12:45 Talk to my darling love while stripping bedsheets, put away my clothes, wipe fingerprints from walls all over the house for most of the conversation
12:45-12:50 Play on my phone
12:50-1:05 Laundry in/switch over/fold clean stuff
1:00-2:30 Bible study work
2:30-3:00 Write some notes in journal; laundry
3:15 Pick up Nuggetizer
3:35 Home....Bubba home shortly after....snack for the boys and change clothes
3:50-4:15 Outside with boys; their dad comes to get them
4:15-4:45 Fold and put away laundry; fresh sheets on bed; talk to my darling love
4:45 Go pick up girls from cheer practice
5:15 back home, boys get home shortly after, everyone's just chilling and playing, including me. Clean up living room, wipe down sink and toilet, pick up random collected items on stairs, pick up dirty laundry from living room, make more coffee and drink it, pick out shoes to wear, freshen up, the boys ate with their dad and the girls grab some leftovers to eat.
6:50 Head to bible study - wait - have to get frustrated and wait for someone to get picked up - ok it's fine-chat with the friend's dad-then head to bible study
7-9 Bible study
9:00 Home. My darling love's daughter is here to help the girls practice their cheers. Lots of music and jumping ensues.
9:15-9:30 Battling the boys to get to bed, it's late, I'm tired and so are they.
10:00 Cheer practice is over. I am heading to bed and see a little face full of tears in BubbaB8's room. BubbaB8 is very stoic and if he is in his bed crying, it's definitely something big. I go in and we have an emotional conversation about why his dad and I are not together and why he doesn't have friends over more and why I haven't taken them to the park and roller skating. I finally roll into bed, certain of my failure as a mother and human being, and go to sleep.
I don't know what my point is in this blog post. I was just thinking about how much I imagine I can get done and how I imagine being supermom and it so often does not happen. I think I need to adjust my expectations a little. Even as I read back through my "fantasy" day, it doesn't even sound like my fantasy looks in my head.
Whatever. I'm going to go organize something.
2 comments:
I know what you mean! Fantasy vs reality are two totally different things. But what I love is that you show us the reality. I love your honesty!
Thanks, Holly!
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