Friday, May 11, 2012

Fashionista Friday: Fat Brain

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I've figured it out.  Finally.  I know what's wrong with me.

I've got Fat Brain.

Something in my head that tells me I'm disgusting.  That I'm weak, ugly, worthless.

It's full on Fat Brain.

It's that illness where the number on a scale sets the tone for the entire day.

It's that crazy brain cell that says, "You're up a pound - just eat everything in the house."

It's that nagging thought that I've got to figure out how to cover myself so I can take the kids to the pool.

As you may have guessed, the bikini readiness is at a standstill.  It's part physical, mostly mental.

It's Fat Brain.

I'm fighting Fat Brain every day, much more than I fight anything in the fridge. 

Fat Brain is telling me horrible things about myself, when in reality, a size 8 or 10 is not the worst thing in the world.  Who knew?

Fighting the Good Fight

I stopped weighing myself.

I started running 5 or 6 weeks ago.  I'm improving every time and I'm loving it.  It's "me."

I eat lots of vegetables.  I eat other things too...and I've always loved vegetables and eaten them in plenty, but I'm eating even more now.

Right before I started running, I put a pair of size 8 (not stretch) jeans on.  The button and buttonhole at the waist were about 2.5 inches apart and not budging.  I hung them on my closet door as a reminder.

About 3 weeks ago, I got into those jeans.  I previously could only wear my size 10 jeans and a pair of junior 13's.  This weekend, I tried on some smaller jeans. 
(They are junior size 11, but I don't know how to factor those things in with women's sizes since even when I was my smallest since having kids I wore a size 4 or 6, but still needed a 9 or 11 in junior?  weird sizing, I don't get it.)
The jeans are very tight.  I can button them but I can barely move.  They are on my door now, my next reminder.

I'm in a constant mode of reminding myself what God says about me.  "You are fearfully and wonderfully made."  I think how disappointed He must be when He hears all the things I say to myself about myself.  I am His kid; you know how mad you get when someone talks about your kid?  Imagine how He feels.

I've set new goals, keeping my self in mind.  How I work.  How I'm wired.  Here's the thing.  I like ice cream.  I like spaghetti.  Do I have to eat these things every day?  No.  (And I don't!..usually!)  But I want to eat them once a week.  I decided my goals have to be about doing not about not doing.  Make sense? 

My ultimate goal is to be running 5 to 10 miles most days of the week.  This will enable me to have an increased calorie intake without adding pounds, in theory.  First goal is a 5k...Father's Day in Baltimore.  Once I get there, I plan to increase my mileage by 1/4 mile a week (more if I can handle it, but I'm starting small.)

Fat Brain is curable, I'm sure of it.  The disease is working it's way out of me, slowly but surely.  Every day I don't weigh myself and every time I remember that my jeans size is not the size of my worth, I am winning.

Thursday, May 10, 2012

Thursday's "Thing About": The Thing About Change

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Change.  How many little sayings about change can we come up with?  How many motivational/self improvement things have you read or seen over the years?

My pastor talked about transitions last Sunday, and it started me thinking through my transitions in life and wondering if I'm in one now.

One of the things he pointed out was a statistic that 70 percent of people do not like change.

I challenge this statistic.  It's inaccurate.

We don't have a problem with change.  Think about it, ladies.  How many females love shopping?  Why do you love shopping?  Well, for me, it's because I want new and different things to wear, to look at, or to experience around me. 

That's a change.

And it's one a lot of us embrace and seek out.

People don't dislike change.

When change takes place within our sphere of control, we enthusiastically welcome it!

What people dislike, avoid, and panic over is the loss of control!  Right?

Moving on.

If I could let you inside my head to see what I thought I was going to write about versus what actually shows up on the page, you'd be shocked.

Anyway, I've been thinking about a change in my life.

I'm in a funk.  I'm in a weird place.  I'm trying to figure out what I want to do when I grow up.

My youngest child is going to kindergarten in the fall, and it's got me all balled up.

Notice I said "balled" not "bawling".  I'm looking forward to it.  He'll be 6 in September and he and I are both ready for him to go.

I have really been in a bit of a mental flurry over this.  I've been running over the options in my mind...of course, I could remain working outside the home part time evenings and devote all of those kid-free school hours to freelance writing.  I could convert those evenings to part time days and do what I do now...write when I can squeeze it in.  I could get a full-time job....although I don't really think I have time for that.  I could start my own business, I've had a few ideas.  I could take classes and finish college.

Before I had kids, I just worked full time, sometimes more than full time.  When my first child was 2, I started my SAHM-ness.  I also helped to build and run my then-husband's business.  In 2008, I got the part time job I still hold today, but I still consider myself a SAHM.  I'm home all day with NuggetizerB5.  I'm here when my kids get home, I'm home to pick up sick kids from school or to run to and from practices, concerts and appointments.

So my life will change greatly in just a few months.  I'm feeling pressured (by my own brain) to decide what I want to be, in addition to "mom."



Wednesday, May 9, 2012

What's Cooking Wednesday: Salsa Chicken from Rachael



Oh.  Holy. Schmoley.

I have a new love.  My new love is a cooking channel I did not realize existed.
 
Here is the link to their website:

You must go.  You must check it out to find out the airtime for your area. 

On this channel are some old favorites I thought were lost forever, like Nigella Lawson (can you believe she is 52?)  I also found an old favorite with a new-to-me twist - good ole Rachael Ray has a show called "Week in a Day." 

Even though they are calling 5 days a week, I'm still in love.  The recipes are mouthwatering, easy to prepare, and complete with make-ahead tips.

Love.

Love.

Love.

I don't find myself in a time crunch at dinnertime too often, so I didn't do any of the make ahead parts.  I just cooked myself into happy, happy, happy places today with her Salsa Marinated Chicken

I am in love.  Did I already say that?

I made this recipe for 8.  (It is only very slightly different from hers)

3 lbs boneless skinless chicken breast
8 medium roma tomatoes (a touch smaller than a baseball)
1 medium red onion (size of a baseball)
3 teaspoons minced garlic
2 jalapeno chili peppers
2 T. dried cilantro  (I am guessing...you might have to add more)
Salt, to taste (sea salt or kosher salt)
Olive oil

1.  Using a food processor with the grating disc, quarter the tomatoes and cut out the core, leaving all the juices and seeds.  Add the red onion after peeling and quartering it, using the same disc.

2. Chop the jalapeno pepper finely after taking out the white insides.  Leave the seeds in or take them out, it doesn't matter.  Some of the kids are not thrilled with hot foods, so I left most of them out of the salsa.  Add the pepper to the tomatoes and onion and mix, also adding the remaining ingredients except the olive oil.

3.  Put the chicken breasts in a flat plastic container or plastic bag, whatever you like, and spread about 1/3 of the batch of salsa over the chicken.  Add olive oil, about 1/3 cup according to her recipe (I didn't measure) and mix it all together.

4.  Put the salsa without chicken in the fridge and marinate the salsa chicken as well for a few hours.   I ended up having it in the fridge for about 4 hours.

5.  Grill the chicken breasts over medium-high flame until cooked through, about 15 minutes if they are not too thick.  I like to cut my chicken up into smaller pieces so they cook faster and so I can more easily make sure they are cooked thoroughly.  Just dump all the marinade and juices right on top of the chicken.  Yum.  Yum.  Yum.



I served mine with cilantro-lime flavored barley.  The barley was absolutely fantastic, so I must share what I dumped into that.

Cook the barley according to the package directions (warning: it takes 50 minutes after water boils)

I would recommend cooking it in chicken broth.  I forgot that I wanted to do this, so I ended up adding 2 bouillon cubes to the already cooking barley and it turned out well.  I was sad that I forgot to defrost some of my homemade broth for it though.

This is what I used for 3/4 cup barley (measured DRY)

2 T. dried cilantro
2 T. olive oil
Juice of 1/2 lime
1/2 T. butter

Mix ingredients in serving bowl.  Add cooked barley and mix.

So good.  I wanted to eat it all, but I did not.

I added some steamed mixed veggies, my go-to, just tossed with olive oil, salt, and garlic.

Don't forget the salsa in the fridge!  Serve it with your delicious dinner.

I had some right on top of my veggies and added more to my chicken as well.

Tuesday, May 8, 2012

Tightwad Tuesday: The Tightwad Gazette

Frugal Tips From the Tightwad Gazette – Book Review

by heather on May 6, 2009
Reposted by republishing permission; original article posted at The Greenest Dollar
 
If you’re into frugal living and saving money tips, then I’ve got a treat for you.

A few days ago I took out The Tightwad Gazette II: Promoting Thrift as a Viable Alternative Lifestyle , by Amy Dacyczyn, from my local library. And, I was enthralled from the first page.

This book teaches you how to frugal hack anything. You can open up any page of this book and find something useful.

The Tightwad Gazette was a newsletter that Ms. Dacyczyn started back in the ’90s. It was a smashing success with readers because they learned tons of ways to save money, and make their things last longer. In fact, Ms. Dacyczyn made so much money off the newsletter and book sales she was able to retire early and raise her family at home.

High fives to her!

All this speaks to the treasure trove of wisdom in these pages. There are three Tightwad Gazette books, and all of them are completely wonderful.

Another cool thing about these books is that Ms. Dacyczyn included countless tips from readers who wrote in over the years with frugal tips of their own. And, these nuggets of money-saving wisdom are invaluable.

So, want to learn some frugal living tips from the Tightwad Gazettes?

Tightwad Gazette Frugal Living Tips
1. Reuse Junk Mail Envelopes- You can reuse the junk mail envelopes you get by carefully turning them inside out. This hides the postal bar code on the front (which would send your mail to the wrong place) and extends the life of the envelope.
2. Make Your Shoes Fit With Ice- I loved this tip! If you have bought boots that are too small, try this tip: put a garbage bag into the shoe (make sure it has no holes!) and fill it with water. Tightly tie the top of the garbage bag and put the water-filled shoe in the freezer. As the water turns to ice it expands, and will stretch the leather enough to give your toes more room.
3. Save Money By Marking Your Hubcaps- If you lose a hubcap it’s going to cost $100 or more to replace it. Be proactive by taking off your hubcaps now and, with permanent marker, writing your name, phone number, and “Reward” on the inside. If they fall off, paying someone $20 for returning them will save you big.
4. Don’t Buy New Gas Caps- If you lose your car’s gas cap, then don’t spend money on a new one. Most gas stations have a “lost and found” box full of forgotten gas caps. Often they’ll gladly give you one for free.
5. Regulate Your Kid’s Bathwater- If your kids love to take baths, then put a piece of electrical tape on the inside of the bathtub to let them know when they should turn the water off. This will save money because they’re using less water.
6. Freshen Your Car Naturally- Instead of buying air fresheners for your car (which are nothing but chemicals we shouldn’t be breathing in anyway), put cloves in your ashtray and leave it open a bit.
7. Make Your Own Puppets- If your kids are hankering for puppets, don’t buy new ones (which are insanely expensive sometimes). Buy stuffed animals at thrift stores and garage sales, open the back seam, and take out the stuffing. You’ve got a great puppet for a fraction of the cost of a new one.
8. Save Your Six Pack Rings- Instead of recycling (or worse, throwing away) those plastic rings that hold six packs together, save them up (and ask your friends to do the same). You can tie them together with fishing line to make a sturdy, lightweight hammock.
9. Reuse Your Onion Bags In The Bathroom- Those plastic mesh bags that your onions (or oranges) come in are invaluable. Use them to store toys in the bathtub; when you hang them up in the tub they can drip dry during the day.
10. Save Your Metal Juice Lids- Glue a piece of magnetic tape to the back, and a small picture of your child to the front. You can use these to keep track of who’s doing what chores on the refrigerator chore chart. Or, you can use them just as cool, funky magnets.
11. Save Stuck Envelopes- If you have old envelopes that have sealed closed because of moisture, stick them in the microwave for 20 seconds. This will extend their life, and help you save money on not buying new ones.
12. Throw Your Ziplocks In the Wash- If you want to extend the life of your plastic bags, turn them inside out and put them into your washing machine with a load of laundry. They’ll be brand new and sparkly clean when the wash is done, just make sure that you get them all out before the load goes into the dryer!
13. Save Those Boxes- If you buy your kids new toys for Christmas, keep the boxes and store them in your attic or basement. When the kids grow tired of the toys and you’re ready to garage-sale them, put them back in the box. Toys in boxes are always bought first, and you can ask a higher price, especially if the toys are undamaged.
14. Save Your Bread- If you live in a one or two person household, you might find that going through a loaf of bread is impossible before it gets moldy. So usually, you waste part of the loaf. To prevent this put the bread, two slices at a time, into small Ziplock freezer bags and toss them in the freezer. Keep the first half of the loaf fresh. When you get down to the last few slices, start “unfreezing” the frozen bread. Keeping it with just two slices per bag will help prevent freezer burn. You can also save money (and use less plastic) by easily reusing the Ziplocks each time.
15. Get Your Teeth Cleaned- If you don’t have dental insurance, you can get routine cleanings done for a fraction of the cost at your local dental school. The students have to complete several cleanings in order to graduate, and they do a thorough job because a) they’re watched like hawks and b) they’re graded on each cleaning.
You also learn…
  • How to start a great garden using stuff you have around the house (like egg cartons, milk jugs, old lumbar and windows…
  • How to revive old cast-iron cookware to make them good as new
  • How to make your own gourmet mustard
  • Why buying in bulk sometimes isn’t the better deal (statistically, you use more of the product at a time when it’s bought in bulk)
  • How to make refrigerator bread dough that is cheap, long lasting, and easy to make
  • How to make your own toaster pastries at a fraction of the cost of store-bought ones
Last Word…
Seriously, I’m in love with these Tightwad Gazette books. There is so much fantastic information here, and there’s no way I even covered a fraction of it. I’ve greatly trimmed down my books lately, but these are three that I might have to add to my collection.
One thing to note: because these books were written back in the 1990s, the prices are, understandably, a bit out of date. Remember when a gallon of gas cost $1.20? And that was high?
I couldn’t help but laugh at that one.
There’s also tons of frugal recipes in here. I’m definitely going to be trying the refrigerator bread dough one soon, and I’ll post that as soon I make it on my own. Hot cross buns sound pretty yum!
“Budgeting is the art of doing that well with one dollar which any bungler can do with two.”
-Arthur Wellington, British soldier and statesmen (1769-1852)
You can find out more on The Tightwad Gazette II: Promoting Thrift as a Viable Alternative Lifestyle by clicking that link, which will take you right to my Amazon store.
If you’d like to just go straight to Amazon to find out more, you can click here (I’m pretty sure the books are out of print, at least part II and III are, so you might have to buy them used online or in a used bookstore if you can find them).
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Monday, May 7, 2012

Monday Motherhood Musing: Writing on the Hearts of Children

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Sometimes I think that I am as impatient as they come.  I get frustrated with lack of discipline, frustrated with laziness, frustrated with lateness and rushing, frustrated with messy rooms and too much snacking and opening the door to go in and out 50 times an hour.

I feel guilty when I am short-tempered and snippy as these things build up around here.

I want the house to be clean and the kids to not fight and to stop growing and give me a break from buying new shoes shorts dresses socks tee shirts underwear for 5 seconds!



Here's what I don't do, and what raises my ire more than almost anything.  I don't name call.

"You're a pig!"  "You're such a slob!" 

"What's wrong with you?"

I do not do everything right, please don't think that.  I'm just calling out some things today that are beyond not-right; they are downright wrong.  Have you ever heard a parent say these things:

"I wish I never had you."

"I don't want you here."

"Why can't you be more like ____?"

"I'd bury you if I could get away with it."


Folks, whether you are a believer in the word of the Bible or not, you have got to realize that in the tongue lies the power of life and death.

You are writing on your children's hearts every time you open your mouth.

Every time.

My heart breaks when I hear these words spoken to children.  Sometimes I have heard them spoken very close to me and it takes everything in me not to scratch out the eyes of the speaker.

Write on the hearts of your children:

I love you.

You are wonderfully made.

The only 'mistake' is that I didn't have you sooner so I could love you longer.

You're smart.

I expect you to do well.

You're wanted.

You're mine.

You're a gift.

Speak wonder and glory, success and acceptance, beauty and life into your children
today.
Every day.

***For those wanting a scripture reference for the power of the tongue, look at Proverbs 18:21 and also at the book of James, chapter 3.